What is bondage?

Bondage relates to the same dominantion and submission form of sexual fetish play where one partner takes control and the other submits to their every desire.

This mostly takes the form of a sex game or sexual fantasy enactment. Bondage games are commonly used as a form of foreplay, they require and imply a level of trust and a surrender of control by the restrained to the active partner. This surrender of control happens voluntarily and under mutual understanding and consent. The active partner may achieve sexual arousal from being in a dominant situation, while the tied partner is aroused from being in a largely helpless position in the hands of their partner either as a fetish or just a sexual fantasy.

Bondage can be relatively simple to apply, enabling improvisation using household items and little experience. Bedroom bondage is usually mild bondage, with one partner voluntarily being put into restraints by being tied up or handcuffed. Blind folds are a common part of bedroom play. The restrained partner is then typically sexualy stimulated by masturbation, fingering, oral sex, vibrators, or intercourse.

Bondage often involve roleplay and dressing for the ocasion. Typical outfits for the submissive person reflect sexual innocence like a nun or schoolgirl, schoolboy outfits or a leather and latex slave purpose clothing. In a similar aspect, the dominant person’s outfit often reflect images of power, control a police officer or a prison guard uniform.

Bondage can also be used for purposes other than sexual foreplay, for example decorative bondage for erotic photography; torture bondage; meditative bondage, evolved form a form of japanese religious meditation.

Why am I attracted to bondage?

There are many more reasons why people allow themselves to be bound. Some people find freedom during corporal passivity, they feel freed of responasbility for what happens to their body. Their focus falls on inner spirituality and peace. Others experience helplessness, struggle against their bonds as a masochistic pleasure from the restraint and pain, as well as being used for erotic stimulation by their partner.

Many couples incorporate bondage into their sex lives. Some of them rarely and only as foreplay but some practice it more regularly, and find bondage to be relationship-affirming. The main feature of sexual bondage is that it renders the restrained person vulnerable to a variety of sex acts. The restrained partner is dependent for their sexual satisfaction on the actions of their partner, who may treat the restrained partner as their sex object.